What's Wrong with Me?

This week I wanted to talk about how self limiting beliefs show up in our lives like sneaky little gremlins hiding in the closets of our minds. I think it's easy enough to identify the big mind monsters. You know .. anything that our Comparison Queen or King tells us, which always relates to the Lack of Enoughness category . "I'm not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough" statements. Comparing yourself to others never leads to anything warm and fuzzy or a productive outcome. What I want to talk about are some of the sneakier things we come to believe that on the surface seem fairly harmless. These little gremlins are the thoughts we often accept as being true and unchangeable. The real truth is that these little sentences can deteriorate your confidence and self worth over time. Learning some new power thoughts will literally change the course and direction of your life! So, as you can imagine, I think today's topic can be a real game changer! Have you ever stopped to consider the only thing holding you back from achieving your dreams is YOU and your THOUGHTS?!? Not your education, status, gender, or any other reason you might be able to come up with. It's the relationship you have with YOU! As I've shared with you before, a thought is just a sentence in your head. It just starts out as a baby spark without much to it. The power of a thought is based on how often you think it. And if you've been following me, you already know we have A LOT of thoughts dancing around up there in our noodles. The adult mind has about 65,000 thoughts a day, so it's a pretty busy place. Imagine if we hear and then think just one of those thoughts over and over again? A thought like, "this is hard." Now keep in mind, it is normal for our minds to gravitate towards negative thinking. It's one of the ways we stay alert to danger. It becomes a problem when we turn that negative thinking against ourselves. Those thoughts actually becomes the enemy within holding us back and tripping us up along the way. Today, we're going to talk about how we become self limiting in the first place, the five gremlins we need to tame and the super thoughts we can use to move from paralysis and doubt to freedom and success. The first big question we need to explore is where do self limiting beliefs come from? It actually starts at a very young age. From the time we start to interact with other humans, we're interpreting the meaning of our world. Did you know that a toddler hears the words "no" or "can't" 3 times as often as "yes" or "you can"? Just by nature, our parents are limiting our actions and our natural desire to explore. Of course, it's coming from a good place. They want to make sure we don't get hurt or put our baby selves in a dangerous situation. As children, we rely on the people around us to guide us and keep us safe. How that message is delivered isn't always done in the most supportive or positive way. Over time, the messages we receive become an accepted way of thinking and believing. And for kids, the things their parents say become their truth. But a belief is just the story that we've accepted over time. You've heard it and thought it so often that it just becomes an automatic way of thinking. A belief is not a truth. It's simply a judgment about your world, how you're experiencing it and what you need to do to stay safe. If those beliefs or stories are never questioned, how would you know that the way you're thinking is limiting your ability to show up in your life? It's like having invisible handcuffs on. Before we can begin to change our limiting beliefs and manage our minds, we need to question the things we're telling ourselves. It takes self-awareness, effort and practice. But it can be done. Let's explore five self limiting thoughts you may tell yourself without realizing it. I also included some examples of the possible emotions that get we might feel when we're thinking these things. The little two word sentence, "I can't" or "you can't" is the #1 cause of killing dreams. Fear and anxiety are normal human emotions. What if we decided that we CAN even if we're scared. Below are 5 self limiting beliefs that get in our way of being the best version of ourselves. Begin to question your beliefs and thoughts to make room for better ones. Those uncomfortable thoughts create uncomfortable feelings, which is just energy and vibrations, bouncing around in our bodies. When you give yourself permission to feel uncomfortable, you will begin to set yourself free. 1. Thought: I can't Resulting Emotions: anxiety, fear 2. Thought: I should/shouldn't Resulting Emotions: shame, judgment 3. Thought: I have to Resulting Emotions: resentment, anger 4. Thought: I don't know Resulting Emotions: confusion, doubt 5. Thought: It's just the way I am Resulting Emotions: defeat, sadness Ask yourself, are some of these self limiting gremlins causing havoc and interfering with your ability to get out of your own way? It's important to understand that the way you think impacts the way you feel and drives your actions, or in many cases our inactions. You're limiting your ability to create the life you dream of. Below are some super thoughts that will always empower you to move forward, even if it feels uncomfortable or odd. 1. New thought: This is easy Resulting Emotions: confident, calm 2. New thought: God/universe is working for me Resulting Emotions: determined, motivated 3. New thought: I can do hard things Resulting Emotions: Fearless, Courageous 4. New thought: I choose to/I want to Resulting Emotions: Empowered, Excited 5. New thought: I trust Resulting Emotions: Trusting, Present I always tell my clients that thoughts are free. Choose the ones that help you to be who you want to be. My favorite thought is "I can do hard things." Life was never intended to be without its challenges. That's what makes being human so interesting! If you choose thoughts with intention and lean into them, you will be amazed at what you're able to accomplish! As always .. make it a beautiful week and thanks for tuning in. Next week I plan to talk about Self Loathing and when did this become so trendy and noble? Remember! What's possible starts with a single thought! So think beautiful good thoughts. Until next week, sending so much love your way! xo Jeanna